It was a fine weekend but it was so humid last Sunday. I have updated the bedding and our wardrobes with summer items. I was starting to have a headache that morning so I couldn't go with Max for a run around the neighbourhood. I let him ride his scooter on his own instead.
He's been begging me to watch a movie or play a video game but I told him that he can only do it in the afternoon. By midday, I let him and Rose go for a scooter ride to the nearby school while I was getting lunch ready.
After lunch, the headache got worse so I went for a nap. Both me and hubby fell asleep that afternoon and woke up at past 5pm. I remember waking up twice in between and the place was just very quiet.
When I got up later that day, the kids were playing with their Lego bricks. I asked them what they did before that. Rose said she took to writing. Whereas Max complained about how bored he was so he just ended up reading a book! (I had a big smile when he said that.)
They have snacks that are well within reach so I wasn't concerned about them getting hungry as we slept.
Then it was dinner time and it wasn't long that I was telling them to go to bed. Their bedtime is as 8pm. Max was so annoyed as he didn't get the chance to even watch TV. (Success!) There's school the next day so he can't really complain.
The next day, Monday, they did manage to find time to watch a movie - Stork and still get through with their routine for a school week, bedtime routine.
Many times the kids will tell me that they're bored. My default answer is always "not my problem". because really, it isn't! If they do press on then I'd tell them to just read a book. I'm always busy with house chores anyway. I do get them to help me as much as possible. Sometimes they will complain, sometimes they will volunteer or insist on helping out. I love it when they do that.
Friday, November 22, 2019
Tuesday, February 19, 2019
So You Want to Visit New Zealand
New Zealand is made up of 2 big islands: North Island and South Island. Auckland is somewhere at the northern part of the the North Island. Wellington, the capital is somewhere at the bottom part of the North Island. Most of the places that we've been to here at the North Island has a beach, a walking trail (hiking and walking is the same thing) and most likely a playground. All these places we've just Googled. It's interesting the level of detail that people put out there for you to consume. We also relied on our GPS navigator to take us to these places. Popular places that Aucklanders seem to visit often during school holidays are Whangarei, Rotorua, Taupo and Coromandel. We haven't been to the South Island but have mostly explored Auckland and nearby towns.
They say that the South Island is like a different country that's why we still have a couple of things to do here from our bucket list:
Fans of the Hobbit and LOTR movies visit at least one of the 23 sites where the movies took place. These are spread around NZ. I've only been to Hobbiton, which is 3 hours away from Auckland. Nearby is Taupo, which is a jump off point to Tongariro Crossing, where Mordor is. I have thought about doing this crossing which is a day hike but maybe when the kids are older.
So to my friends and family who want to visit New Zealand, I'd say give it at least 2 weeks. New Zealand has lots of free scenic attractions. The country is also popular for its extreme adventures (bungy jump, skydiving, etc.) and this is one of the safest places that you can do it. Also, New Zealand is a drive-able country. It is very common for tourists to rent a car and drive themselves around. Transport options, local tours, accommodation, etc. can be booked directly. Tourism is one of the biggest industries here so expect the locals, or most of the tourist towns to be looking after you.
Your primary expenses would be Visit Visa fees if applicable (see immigration.govt.nz), airfare, transport, accommodation and food. Do some research on the things that you like to do and then take it from there. You should be able to work your way through transport, tours and accommodation.
They say that the South Island is like a different country that's why we still have a couple of things to do here from our bucket list:
- go on a road trip to the South Island
- take one of the scenic train journeys (when the kids are older)
- go to Lake Tekapo for the Southern Lights (Aurora Australis)
- go to Milford Sound
- go hiking or tramping in one of the family-friendly trails at South Island.
Fans of the Hobbit and LOTR movies visit at least one of the 23 sites where the movies took place. These are spread around NZ. I've only been to Hobbiton, which is 3 hours away from Auckland. Nearby is Taupo, which is a jump off point to Tongariro Crossing, where Mordor is. I have thought about doing this crossing which is a day hike but maybe when the kids are older.
So to my friends and family who want to visit New Zealand, I'd say give it at least 2 weeks. New Zealand has lots of free scenic attractions. The country is also popular for its extreme adventures (bungy jump, skydiving, etc.) and this is one of the safest places that you can do it. Also, New Zealand is a drive-able country. It is very common for tourists to rent a car and drive themselves around. Transport options, local tours, accommodation, etc. can be booked directly. Tourism is one of the biggest industries here so expect the locals, or most of the tourist towns to be looking after you.
Your primary expenses would be Visit Visa fees if applicable (see immigration.govt.nz), airfare, transport, accommodation and food. Do some research on the things that you like to do and then take it from there. You should be able to work your way through transport, tours and accommodation.
Monday, February 11, 2019
Riding the Waves at Browns Bay
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| Saturday at Browns Bay, with my kids at the middle/front |
Tuesday, February 5, 2019
Visiting the Philippines After 6 Years Abroad
It took months of preparation and at least a year of
psyching ourselves out. The goal was to spend Christmas at the Philippines and
spend as much time as we can with the family, particularly the grandmas. And so
we did, spent 35 days in the Philippines between December 2018 and January
2019.
When we left Manila, we only had our hopes and dreams of
starting a life in New Zealand. Six years on, we’ve gotten into the flow of
things. We became Aucklanders and later on, pledged our oath of allegiance as NZ
citizens. And then came the realisation of our long awaited visit home.
In retrospect, the trip helped us appreciate what we have.
It made me focus on our goals. Auckland is our home now and we should just carry
on from here. The Philippines is part of us but our life now is in New Zealand.
We are grateful that the kids got to spend time with the family and have
enjoyed visiting the many homes. At least now they have a conscious memory of
their time spent with the family.
The trip also brought that feeling of being displaced. I think it's because I now see things with very different eyes. It's knowing that I was once part of it but now, I'm no longer the same. I feel different and I seem to just hold on to the bonds that I had with the past. There's still that warmth but I suppose, whether it's ageing or maybe it's something to do with being abroad long enough, there is also that feeling of being displaced. It wasn't as how things were anymore.
The trip also brought that feeling of being displaced. I think it's because I now see things with very different eyes. It's knowing that I was once part of it but now, I'm no longer the same. I feel different and I seem to just hold on to the bonds that I had with the past. There's still that warmth but I suppose, whether it's ageing or maybe it's something to do with being abroad long enough, there is also that feeling of being displaced. It wasn't as how things were anymore.
Some practical things that we learned:
- Booking for at least 1 night at a hotel near the airport is a good idea for both arrival and pre-departure. It gives you that space to breathe, to rest and to clear your thoughts. It also helps you take it all in.
- Stay long enough in one place especially when you’re travelling with kids. I found it quite stressful and time consuming to be packing and unpacking our things too frequently. There’s a lot of changing of clothes for the kids coz of the warm weather so dealing with laundry can be a mission. It’s a good thing that my kids are used to being on the go. They woke up early as needed and had no issues sleeping at night.
- Ask your friends to come to you. It saves you time and worry of finding your way again in the concrete jungle.
- Support local businesses. Buying fish from the local fishermen was an exciting experience for my son as he got to see their fresh catch and the boat that was used. It’s also good to pick up some locally made items like those handwoven blankets at Vigan. We also enjoyed buying fresh bread at the local bakery. You’d be surprised with what the local bakers are making, and they’re sometimes unique to that town.
- Always have basic medication ready. One of the first things that we bought when we arrived was paracetamol for the kids. As you head further out of the city, it can be difficult to find a pharmacy so best to have some basic meds, and a first aid kit handy. The kids had fever during our trip. It would’ve been good to have packed some ice packs then. We also had an accident while the kids were playing so some cotton balls, gauze, iodine and a gauze tape would’ve been handy. A pantyliner can be handy too.
- Always have enough cash with you. The Philippines is still a very cash-based society.
- We used an anti-mosquito repellant almost everyday. Despite its strong citronella scent, you’d still need a mosquito coil (katol) to ward off these insects. 4pm is a good time to start spraying this onto yourself.
- Bring a travel tissue wherever you go. Both wet and dry. Don’t expect public toilets to have a toilet paper (worse, there can be no water!).
- And when travelling, always have enough bottled water with you especially during hot days.
Tuesday, October 30, 2018
The Lure of Gadgets and Video Games
I still get surprised to hear other parents complaining about how it's been difficult to get their kids off from devices. Some even said that they'd wish that these gadgets/ video games weren't invented.
I always thought that the answer's simple. Keep the devices away from the kids. If you let them play, then give a time limit. Also, the games/ activities should be age appropriate. Alan would often find a game where two people can play together. That way the kids are forced into working together, and figuring out the game together.
I didn't really pay much attention with the Pokemon Nintendo 2Ds. Turns out, it has a lot of tools that enables a child to be creative: making short videos, doodling on a photo, making animation, etc. Of course Alan already knew that hence he was so keen on getting it for the kids back then.
It does require effort from parents to learn what's out there to ensure that what you're giving your child is something that you can actually manage. I think it poses as a risk if you just give them all these devices/ access to the software/ sites without filtering. Kids do get carried away with whatever is the latest hype on devices and games at school. There's nothing wrong with not always giving into the hype. But we do make an effort to understand what it is that they're talking about. Then Alan evaluates whether it's worth giving it a go.
When Max was asking permission to play Fortnite, I was impressed with how he handled my version of no. I told him that it's not age appropriate and that he might end up addicted to the game. After clarifying what addiction means, he said it's not the only game that he will play anyway. He just wants to give it a go and play with his friends, but not all the time. He made it clear that he will practise restraint.
Now that's definitely a mature response than just insisting on wanting to play.
I'm not a gamer but Alan is. I don't see the point of spending for these gadgets/ software. I am old school so it will take a lot of convincing for me to agree on spending money on these things. My priorities are obviously different. But it's good to have Alan there filtering out these things for the family. At least the kids are not behind on their awareness of what technology offers. They're currently enjoying a balance of real and virtual play.
I always thought that the answer's simple. Keep the devices away from the kids. If you let them play, then give a time limit. Also, the games/ activities should be age appropriate. Alan would often find a game where two people can play together. That way the kids are forced into working together, and figuring out the game together.
I didn't really pay much attention with the Pokemon Nintendo 2Ds. Turns out, it has a lot of tools that enables a child to be creative: making short videos, doodling on a photo, making animation, etc. Of course Alan already knew that hence he was so keen on getting it for the kids back then.
It does require effort from parents to learn what's out there to ensure that what you're giving your child is something that you can actually manage. I think it poses as a risk if you just give them all these devices/ access to the software/ sites without filtering. Kids do get carried away with whatever is the latest hype on devices and games at school. There's nothing wrong with not always giving into the hype. But we do make an effort to understand what it is that they're talking about. Then Alan evaluates whether it's worth giving it a go.
When Max was asking permission to play Fortnite, I was impressed with how he handled my version of no. I told him that it's not age appropriate and that he might end up addicted to the game. After clarifying what addiction means, he said it's not the only game that he will play anyway. He just wants to give it a go and play with his friends, but not all the time. He made it clear that he will practise restraint.
Now that's definitely a mature response than just insisting on wanting to play.
I'm not a gamer but Alan is. I don't see the point of spending for these gadgets/ software. I am old school so it will take a lot of convincing for me to agree on spending money on these things. My priorities are obviously different. But it's good to have Alan there filtering out these things for the family. At least the kids are not behind on their awareness of what technology offers. They're currently enjoying a balance of real and virtual play.
Thursday, October 25, 2018
Hugs, Cuddles and Kisses
This morning I woke up a bit late. Seeing that I was still in bed, Rose went straight to our room, landed on top of me and said "Good morning Mommy!" It's mid-week and she knows that we all need to get ready for school/ work soon. When I asked her to fix her bed as I was getting up, she said ok and left.
Weekend mornings are wonderful especially if we are sleeping in. As the soccer season is over, and the kids' swimming is not until ten in the morning, I can actually stay in bed. That also means Alan, stays in bed, then the kids would one by one start to find (or make!) some space for themselves on our bed. Rose loves to wrap her arm around us. Max likes to cuddle next to me. We have a queen size bed and so far, we all still manage to fit by not moving much. There'd be some tickling that comes after, and lots of giggles, to roaring laughs. All these while we all start getting hungry and me hoping that Alan would get up first to get breakfast going.
We haven't really practised "Mano po" with our kids. It's the act of the child, holding your hand and putting it on his/her forehead. But everyday, I do get a hug and kiss from the kids whenever they're ready to leave for school in the morning. And the same hug and kiss, or it could be a longer hug and lots of kisses at night before going to bed. I do feel bad if they don't do this with me on either occasion. The kids feel bad too so even if they're upset from an argument with me, or from being told off, the hug really eases the tension. And the kiss helps the tears go away.
When I come home feeling tired, I sit on the couch and prop my feet up. And whether I decide to turn the TV on or just stare blankly out on the open, the kids will, little by little, find themselves within a very close proximity. Often they'd be reading a book. They like sitting next to me, wrapping themselves with the throw that I have on when I have the TV turned on. And it's as if I don't care enough if I shoo them away, or not make room for them.
I used to get overwhelmed with all these touchy, feely stuff my kids naturally provide. But now I've gotten used to it to the point that I start noticing them growing out of this little by little. I suppose naturally, the kids will want to be on their own, and probably not need that many hugs and cuddles and kisses from Mom.
But for now, I am really savouring it. I love their hugs, and cuddles and kisses!
Weekend mornings are wonderful especially if we are sleeping in. As the soccer season is over, and the kids' swimming is not until ten in the morning, I can actually stay in bed. That also means Alan, stays in bed, then the kids would one by one start to find (or make!) some space for themselves on our bed. Rose loves to wrap her arm around us. Max likes to cuddle next to me. We have a queen size bed and so far, we all still manage to fit by not moving much. There'd be some tickling that comes after, and lots of giggles, to roaring laughs. All these while we all start getting hungry and me hoping that Alan would get up first to get breakfast going.
We haven't really practised "Mano po" with our kids. It's the act of the child, holding your hand and putting it on his/her forehead. But everyday, I do get a hug and kiss from the kids whenever they're ready to leave for school in the morning. And the same hug and kiss, or it could be a longer hug and lots of kisses at night before going to bed. I do feel bad if they don't do this with me on either occasion. The kids feel bad too so even if they're upset from an argument with me, or from being told off, the hug really eases the tension. And the kiss helps the tears go away.
When I come home feeling tired, I sit on the couch and prop my feet up. And whether I decide to turn the TV on or just stare blankly out on the open, the kids will, little by little, find themselves within a very close proximity. Often they'd be reading a book. They like sitting next to me, wrapping themselves with the throw that I have on when I have the TV turned on. And it's as if I don't care enough if I shoo them away, or not make room for them.
I used to get overwhelmed with all these touchy, feely stuff my kids naturally provide. But now I've gotten used to it to the point that I start noticing them growing out of this little by little. I suppose naturally, the kids will want to be on their own, and probably not need that many hugs and cuddles and kisses from Mom.
But for now, I am really savouring it. I love their hugs, and cuddles and kisses!
Tuesday, October 16, 2018
My Kiwi Kids
When I brought Rose to her friend’s house for a birthday
party, she ran straight in and followed a couple of other excited kids who were
running around the house, exploring the place. The Mum said I’m welcome to stay
or if I had something to do, I can leave Rose as well. Then Rose rushed back,
almost bumping into me. She stopped to give me a hug then said “Bye Mum!”
So I left her there, knowing pretty well what the kids are
likely to do and have for the party. I remember one parent telling me (on
another birthday party) during pick up, saying “He’s had fun and is all sugared
up.” It was in one of the birthday parties that Max went to. It makes me think
that’s the recipe for success: lots of playtime and plenty of sweets!
When my kids were younger, I remember them looking for toys
at a house with no kids. I think they assumed that even if you’re an adult, you’d
still have toys lying around the house.
I find myself amazed with how my children find it to be a natural
thing to be able to play with other kids. (That’s because I’m terribly shy as a
kid!) At the playground, they end up talking to and playing with other kids who
they just met. While observing them, it’s as if they know each other from
school. Funny though that Max wouldn’t initially bother with asking their
names. So when asked, he’d just give a shrug and say that he doesn’t know who
he was playing with. As he got older though, he’s learned to ask for the name
at least. Sometimes, he’d find out which school or club they go to. Rose is the
same.
Since my children started going to Primary school, our lives
completely changed and our calendar is now in sync with the school calendar.
Like other families, we book our family holidays during school holidays. I rely
on school holiday programs where they offer free or discounted activities for
families with children. It's normal to see fathers or grandparents (not just mothers) to be pushing a pram, or walking the kids around the neighbourhood, and to the park. There are
events and venues that are especially catered for families with kids, especially during the school holidays. Or maybe
it’s coz I’m always on a lookout for events/ places where I can bring the kids.
My kids (now aged 7 and 9) also understand the concept of gay relationships. They would ask me with the curiosity and innocence of a child. I simply replied matter-of-fact that it happens and it's ok. I was asked by Rose one day if a man can marry another man, same with a woman. I said yes, but that's only in New Zealand. Then she said (in a matter-of-fact tone) that her classmate's Mom is married to another woman.
My kids (now aged 7 and 9) also understand the concept of gay relationships. They would ask me with the curiosity and innocence of a child. I simply replied matter-of-fact that it happens and it's ok. I was asked by Rose one day if a man can marry another man, same with a woman. I said yes, but that's only in New Zealand. Then she said (in a matter-of-fact tone) that her classmate's Mom is married to another woman.
As the kids grow, I do pick up useful insights and practical
tips from fellow parents, especially from my colleagues whose kids are much
older. We do take the opportunity for the kids to have access to a variety of
things to help expand their skills and experience. It’s great to see the kids
enjoying themselves being kids, being aware of the rich diversity around them. I’m hoping they’d carry on with their endless
imaginative play, their yearning for outdoor play, be immersed with books, making comic strips or writing
stories. Everyday is always an adventure with them.
Wednesday, August 15, 2018
The Best of Auckland
In a PinoyKiwi forum post, a Creative head from Trending with Kelly was asking forum members about recommendations, topics, leads on the best of Auckland, for their show entitled, "Trending with Kelly". It's a lifestyle show on ANC, which is also simulcasted on The Filipino Channel.
Naturally I felt compelled to put something together to help them out. Besides, I just can't help but share all the great stuff Auckland has to offer. here's my reply to his post.
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Wow, another lifestyle travel show! At the time of your visit (28 Sept to 9 Oct 2018), I do recommend you experiencing these:
• Visit Cornwall Park http://cornwallpark.co.nz/ (free)
• Wine tasting at Waiheke Island – day tour, highly recommended for foodies
• Maori cultural show at the War Memorial Museum – it’s a good welcome for visitors, good to see the Haka too. I recommend this if you are just staying in Auckland and not heading anywhere else in NZ. There are daily performances at the http://www.aucklandmuseum.com/
• This is why I love Auckland, they have this Chocolate and Coffee Show https://chocolatecoffeeshow.co.nz/ It’s an annual event scheduled 6th &7th October. Auckland has lots of similar events that showcases not just local cuisine, or produce but the diversity of the food and culture as Auckland is the most diverse city in NZ. It could be a boat show, a wine festival, or a cultural event. Suggest you contact Devonport Chocolates. They are an exhibitor and their chocolate shop is at Devonport, where the Navy Museum and North Head are at. While Whittaker is a popular NZ chocolate brand, their home base is at Porirua, outside Auckland. Devonport Chocolate is Auckland-based (see more details in their website). They have a good Auckland story.
• Go for a walk (in the city or at the bush, it's free). Here’s a guide: http://epiclittlemissions.co.nz/
As an Aucklander, our weekend (for us it’s with kids) can be like this:
• Get wet
• If you just want to eat, then
A week is short but hopefully, you’ll find something to keep you occupied that week. We have been living in a suburb here at central Auckland for the past couple of years. My above list are personal recommendations. I’m not affiliated with any of the mentioned establishments. Just sharing my insights.
Naturally I felt compelled to put something together to help them out. Besides, I just can't help but share all the great stuff Auckland has to offer. here's my reply to his post.
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Wow, another lifestyle travel show! At the time of your visit (28 Sept to 9 Oct 2018), I do recommend you experiencing these:
• Visit Cornwall Park http://cornwallpark.co.nz/ (free)
- Cherry blossom trees are in full bloom usually in late September
- Seeing the new lambs on the pastures (the park is also a farm so you don’t need to leave town just to see these)
- Sunset at One Tree Hill – this is any time of the year
- It’s a big park with varying views. We go here by default if we can’t think of a place to go (we do have itchy feet). Our kids just run around, play soccer or climb trees. On a warm sunny day, every Aucklander should at least be able to experience having a picnic here with a bubbly (sparkling wine) – yes, it’s ok to be drinking at the park. Men like their beers, women like their bubblies.
- They do have eateries in this park, but we only really go to the Creamery for ice cream and coffee as we often bring our own picnic
- How to get there: by car, best to get a rental as most of Auckland are best accessed by car. It’s a very spread out city.
• Wine tasting at Waiheke Island – day tour, highly recommended for foodies
- Book a round trip ticket at Fullers, they have packages for food and wine tasting: https://www.fullers.co.nz/experiences-tours/wine-food-tours/
- It’s a popular getaway with the girls, wine/ lunch at a vineyard place
- I do recommend those visiting Auckland to spend a day at Waiheke. They have art galleries there too as many artists reside there. You can also just buy an all day bus pass so you can explore the island on your own.
- The Ferry terminal is just at downtown Auckland. That is where the Fullers ferries are docked. Fullers has many other packages to travel to nearby islands, other tourist destinations.
• Maori cultural show at the War Memorial Museum – it’s a good welcome for visitors, good to see the Haka too. I recommend this if you are just staying in Auckland and not heading anywhere else in NZ. There are daily performances at the http://www.aucklandmuseum.com/
- The War Memorial Museum entry is free for Aucklanders. It is located at the Auckland Domain (the Auckland Domain is a park, free entry)
- The museum has many exhibits, and it’s easy to spend the rest of the day there
- Here at the Auckland Domain, and just a couple of steps away from the museum is the Wintergarden. Spring is a good time to visit the Wintergarden (free entry) coz that’s when they have the most beautiful blooms!
- I work near the Auckland Domain, in fact, I go for a walk at the Auckland Domain during my lunch break almost everyday. We have a group at work who likes playing soccer during lunch time every Wednesday. You will see other groups doing other sports, often these are employees who work nearby. There are also the runners, and those doing group fitness programs. Lunch time is busy here at the Domain not just with tourists heading to the museum and the Wintergarden, but with locals alike
• This is why I love Auckland, they have this Chocolate and Coffee Show https://chocolatecoffeeshow.co.nz/ It’s an annual event scheduled 6th &7th October. Auckland has lots of similar events that showcases not just local cuisine, or produce but the diversity of the food and culture as Auckland is the most diverse city in NZ. It could be a boat show, a wine festival, or a cultural event. Suggest you contact Devonport Chocolates. They are an exhibitor and their chocolate shop is at Devonport, where the Navy Museum and North Head are at. While Whittaker is a popular NZ chocolate brand, their home base is at Porirua, outside Auckland. Devonport Chocolate is Auckland-based (see more details in their website). They have a good Auckland story.
• Go for a walk (in the city or at the bush, it's free). Here’s a guide: http://epiclittlemissions.co.nz/
As an Aucklander, our weekend (for us it’s with kids) can be like this:
- Friday afternoon during summer, after office, head to a beach with a playground (Coyle Park, Takapuna or Brown’s Bay) and have fish and chips for dinner
- Saturday afternoon (after the kids sports), go to the CBD for some shopping at High Street and Queen Street. Then head straight to Wynyard Quarter so the kids can play at the playground. Then dinner at one of the many restaurants at the CBD.
- There’s a Filipino eatery at Elliot Stables. It’s called HomeCooked and this is where we take the kids to sample authentic Filipino dishes. There are a couple more Filipino restaurants scattered in Auckland too. Among these is Nanam. They’ve taken the Filipino cuisine up a notch. Even non-Pinoys love their food!
- Elliot Stables is also a popular spot for locals. They have many food choices, and drinks, and they stay open late.
- Or, leave early Saturday or Sunday morning, go to a regional park like Long Bay, Shakespeare, etc. and spend the morning at the beach. Or just head to North Head (free) at Devonport to watch the many ships, ferries and sails that cross that channel. Have lunch at the Navy Museum (free) then head back home to do some chores. Or chores first before you leave the house!
- It’s normal to get dirt or sand on your shoes if you’re like us who enjoy the open space and nature
• Get wet
- Ride some killer surfs at Piha beach (not for the inexperienced!) – in Spring? It might still be worth the drive out to the west coast, to see that black sand (free). If not Piha, then just go to Muriwai and see the ganet colony. It’s along the same stretch of black sand beach.
• If you just want to eat, then
- You may want to sample a food tour with a local guide: https://www.tripadvisor.co.nz/Attraction_Review-g255106-d2248544-Reviews-The_Big_Foody_Food_Tours-Auckland_Central_North_Island.html
- Go for High Tea
Yes, it’s another girly treat but it’s fun and it doesn’t have to be just tea, you may opt for bubblies too. - Check out Hotel de Brett High Tea or Sofitel High Tea
- Do the Brick Bay Wines and Sculpture Trail. Yes, more wine!
A week is short but hopefully, you’ll find something to keep you occupied that week. We have been living in a suburb here at central Auckland for the past couple of years. My above list are personal recommendations. I’m not affiliated with any of the mentioned establishments. Just sharing my insights.
Tuesday, July 31, 2018
Children's birthday parties are really just for kids
We just finished a 7th birthday party for my
daughter yesterday. Can’t believe she’s 7! She was just 18 months when she
arrived here in NZ. Oh how time flies!
Her birthday’s on a Saturday. I put up some banners by the
dining room wall, wrapped a birthday gift (plush toys) and left it on the
dinner table overnight. It was good surprise for her, but then I didn’t have a
birthday cake yet! So we just took some leftover banana bread, stuck a candle
on it and sang happy birthday to her. That was past 7am while she was trying to
finish her breakfast. Then we rushed to Phyllis Reserve where she played 7th
grade soccer at 8am. After the game, she handed out some treats to her
teammates (Freddo chocolate frogs). Each kid had a piece.
On our way back, we went straight to St. Lukes mall to do
her eye check at OPSM. Then to Countdown to get some ingredients for the cake
and our meals that weekend. At home, I made baked pasta twist. Then following a
very basic recipe, my daughter and I were able to put together a birthday cake.
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| Rose's Forest Cake with shooting stars and torches |
My son had an 11am soccer game at Beachlands, that’s half an
hour away so he and hubby were back late. They bought KFC bucket as an added
treat for the birthday lunch. Then I just let the kids watch a movie, and skipped
their 2pm swimming lessons. It’s been raining on and off that day so not good
to be outdoors. At 3pm, we picked up the chipmunk cake that I ordered for the party the
next day. We had the cake for afternoon tea and then just leftovers for dinner.
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| Here's the Chipmunk cake that I ordered from City Cake Company |
The next day, Sunday, we heard mass at 10am. I made soup
from the remaining mustasa leaves for lunch. Hubby did a batch of washing,
vacuumed the lounge and cleaned the toilet, while the kids played. We left for
Chipmunks at 1:35pm for the party. The kids arrived in trickles from 2pm
onwards. Upon arrival, they just took off their shoes and went straight to the
play areas. As usual, the parents just dropped their kids off.
The kids were just running around and enjoyed the place,
while hubby tried to take photos. A little after 3pm, we were called to the
party room as the food was being served. Charlie, the mascot seemed to have
taken longer than usual to get ready to bring the cake so we decided to bring
it in ourselves. Rose’s cake had a chipmunk on top. Interesting how the kids
seemed to be more interested in eating parts of the chipmunk, same as Rose. She
happily shared.
Finally, Charlie the chipmunk managed to show up and cheer
the kids. After a few photos, and eating a few more, the kids slowly
disappeared from the party room and ran straight back to the play areas. I’m
glad my Filipino friends were there as their presence provided me with some
much needed support. And we managed to do a bit of catching up too while their
kids were busy playing.
Rose was very happy and enjoyed the party. We headed home
just after 4pm. Rose’s excitement continued with opening her presents. Even Max
enjoyed his loot bag especially the few treats that I’ve tucked in there. At
the end of the day, the kids were both smiling as they happily prepared their
things for school the next day.
Just last month, we had a Nerf War party for Max’s 9th
birthday. It’s the same experience, the birthday party itself is really just
playing with their friends. They didn’t eat that much but spent most of the
time playing.
Both kids had been to a few other birthday parties, even play dates as well this year. And it’s interesting how the parents would tell me that now I can take some time off while my child’s in that party/ play date. I suppose it meant a break from parenting during that time.
As a child, birthdays meant having spaghetti, or pancit, maybe fried chicken and some fizzy drink. We didn't have an oven and cakes only became affordable when I was an adult. And the children's parties in Manila meant inviting not just the kids, but their parents, the rest of the family as well. It was a feast, with maybe some games and the birthday kid sitting awkwardly in front of everyone. Unlike here, it seems so simple, brief and yet fun all at the same time.
Tuesday, March 20, 2018
SpeechCraft: The Choices We Make
It was our final evening for the SpeechCraft Course and we were to deliver two speeches. One is a celebratory speech, 200 words. I did it in a rush. Just wrote about a speech for a Service Recognition Award (20 years) and I based the story from one of my colleagues who've been with us for more than 20 years. It was delivered in a minute and a half. My evaluator noted that it was clear and delivered well.
Another is an inspirational speech, 430 words. My teacher said that the speech was entertaining and motivational, borderline inspirational. But at the end of the evalluation, he changed his mind and said that it was indeed an inspirational speech. Again he said that I was good with my facial expressions, my gestures were just right and I didn't look nervous at all.
This is the inspirational speech that I delivered and it's 466 words, delivered in 4 minutes:
When you make a choice, notice that everything in your life follows that choice.
Another is an inspirational speech, 430 words. My teacher said that the speech was entertaining and motivational, borderline inspirational. But at the end of the evalluation, he changed his mind and said that it was indeed an inspirational speech. Again he said that I was good with my facial expressions, my gestures were just right and I didn't look nervous at all.
This is the inspirational speech that I delivered and it's 466 words, delivered in 4 minutes:
When you make a choice, notice that everything in your life follows that choice.
I remember that time when I started taking French language
lessons. The course was expensive and most of the people who were taking it
either had a French partner, or were intending to move to Canada. You get extra
points from immigration if you know the language. I didn’t have the guts to
tell my family the real reason why I’m doing it, which was to eventually read
Les Miserables in French.
I come from a working class family. My parents worked hard
so I can earn a degree, so I can get a job to support myself, get married and
have kids. Then do the cycle again.
Thus taking language lessons just didn’t make any sense even
though I already had a decent job. I pretended that I too was planning to
migrate to Canada. And migrating always made practical sense as it meant better
opportunities, a better life.
It was in that class where I met two women, both were
strangers to each other but both happened to have met someone named Gio. Gio
was organizing a 5 day island hopping camping adventure. They extended his
invitation to me. And that’s when I made a conscious decision to try something different. Therefore I went with a group of 15 strangers for a week at the Palaui
Group of islands on the northern tip of the Philippines. And it was AMAZING!
I went to other adventures in the months that followed,
climbing mountains, exploring beaches, and sampling the local delicacies. I met
more like-minded individuals along the way as a different worId, which I never
thought existed, slowly opened up for me. I picked up a lifestyle of cheap
travel so I can get to more destinations. I learned how to budget for me to be
ready for the next trip. I learned how to find my way in a new place. I became
confident with myself. I learned to step out of my comfort zone. And for the
first time in my life I felt free.
I realized that I was free to choose a lifestyle. And all it
takes is to make a conscious choice of trying things out. Forget what other
people think. Don’t overthink it! Just do it! You never know what you don’t
know. And if it turns out ok, just keep going. If not, then stop. Learn from
the experience and do something else. You just need to start doing and that
makes looking back even more fulfilling. I chose to travel to as many places
across the Philippine archipelago and within two years since I left for Palaui, and I did!
And in those travels, I met my husband. We both have itchy
feet.
Tuesday, March 13, 2018
SpeechCraft: All Hands Volunteer
I am taking the Toastmasters SpeechCraft Course, Monday evenings at Mount Roskill Grammar.
Our homework was to do a persuasive speech. I thought about doing a speech on pearls but realised that I cannot sell it. Then I decided to talk about All Hands Volunteers and persuade the class to join. I looked for some old photos and researched about the organisation, on where they are at now. I enjoyed putting together this speech. I was again very nervous. I used a PPT presentation, selecting a few photos to help visualise the experience. The class was entertained and the teacher said that I did well in helping the audience relive my experience. I didn't look nervous to them. They said i engaged the audience and that i looked calm, and that the message was clear. This took about 4 minutes to deliver. Here's my speech:
Our homework was to do a persuasive speech. I thought about doing a speech on pearls but realised that I cannot sell it. Then I decided to talk about All Hands Volunteers and persuade the class to join. I looked for some old photos and researched about the organisation, on where they are at now. I enjoyed putting together this speech. I was again very nervous. I used a PPT presentation, selecting a few photos to help visualise the experience. The class was entertained and the teacher said that I did well in helping the audience relive my experience. I didn't look nervous to them. They said i engaged the audience and that i looked calm, and that the message was clear. This took about 4 minutes to deliver. Here's my speech:
13 July 2006, Mayon Volcano started erupting, followed by a
quiet effusion of lava forcing at least 40,000 people to evacuate from the 8km
danger zone. In my lifetime, this would be the second major volcanic eruption
that I have experienced. The first being the Mount Pinatubo eruption back in
June 1991.
Mount Mayon is 490km from Manila, where I lived. It’s roughly
an 11 hour drive.
8 months since the eruption, I found myself within what used
to be the 8km danger zone. There were still remnants of mudflow, charred
vegetation and ruins.
That weekend, together with these lovely people, I was there
as an All Hands Volunteer.
We took part in Project Sto. Domingo which was the
rebuilding of the local primary school.
I had no experience with using a hammer and nails. And the
first task given to me was to put up the classroom ceilings. I learned how to
use the hammer, and how to avoid hitting my fingers. And got the job done!
It was an early start the next day and this time, it was to do a
paint job.
I am afraid of heights and I have never done any painting
before let alone painting the roof! Yet there I was, raising my hand, happy to
have accomplished something because I just wanted to help. I was exhausted in
those two days, and oddly enough, I also felt elated!
I was just there for the weekend, then a month later, I came back with a different set of friends, spending another
weekend to help out. There was this incredible sense of camaraderie from
working side by side with fellow volunteers and local community members. It was
hard work but that experience changed me.
Some of these volunteers have already helped in Project
Katrina. There were those who were just passing by, staying on from a few days
to a couple of weeks, as they backpacked across Southeast Asia.
Whenever there’s a natural disaster, we’d ask survivors what
they needed. We cleared debris, we built simple shelters, we rebuild fishing
boats. We get our hands dirty.
All Hands is a volunteer-powered disaster relief
organization dedicated to Rebuilding Hope for people impacted by natural
disasters all over the world. By giving ordinary people the ability to make a
difference, we have enabled over 39,000 volunteers to donate 200,000 days impacting
500,000 people worldwide in the past 12 years.
You never know when the next disaster would strike, but when
it does, All Hands will be there. Make a difference! Be an All Hands Volunteer!
SpeechCraft: Journal Writing
I am taking the Toastmasters SpeechCraft Course, Monday evenings at Mount Roskill Grammar.
Our homework was to prepare for a speech on something that you are passionate about. So I wrote about Journal Writing. I had myself video recorded while I was delivering the speech. I was very nervous. I simply read my speech and they said that I had very good facial expressions. They were entertained and liked how I delivered the speech. Here's my speech:
It started as an exercise in school. We had to write a journal entry at least once a week as part of our English subject. Here we practiced our wow words and built on our vocabulary. It wasn’t easy to think of something to write when you’re in primary. I had to be on a lookout for exciting things and write about it the next day.
Our homework was to prepare for a speech on something that you are passionate about. So I wrote about Journal Writing. I had myself video recorded while I was delivering the speech. I was very nervous. I simply read my speech and they said that I had very good facial expressions. They were entertained and liked how I delivered the speech. Here's my speech:
It started as an exercise in school. We had to write a journal entry at least once a week as part of our English subject. Here we practiced our wow words and built on our vocabulary. It wasn’t easy to think of something to write when you’re in primary. I had to be on a lookout for exciting things and write about it the next day.
8th
July 1985
The
best part of yesterday was when I eat Max’s pizza
and
it was yummy and super duper yummy
and
I was thinking… there is salt BUT there was no salt in the pizza
because
pizza makers don’t put salt.
This was me writing back in the day. I wrote about things
that made me happy. I was 8!
In high school, the focus for journal writing was length. It
had to be X number of words per entry. The grammar should be right. OF COURSE I
filtered my SCHOOL journal entries BECAUSE… I also kept a journal for myself.
23
August 1993
It's
fifteen days before I turn sixteen. I've
been looking forward to being sixteen for a long time, but you know that right?
It was always, in my mind, the real age when you stop being referred to as a
child and start to grow towards adulthood. I always thought I'd do more after I
turned sixteen. But honestly, I think it won't change anything.
A couple of years later, already an adult, I discovered
Blogging. So I setup my blog, that’s a page on the internet and used it for journal
writing.
24
September 2007
Speaking
of, on our journey through life, we really should take only what we can't live
without. Otherwise, those that are truly precious will only get mixed up with
the non-essential things and if we don't figure out what we really need soon,
the precious ones might just disappear in the clutter.
I wrote this after doing some shopping to prepare for a trip
overseas. Now, that’s quite an insight.
Journaling is a beautiful and powerful facilitator of self-discovery.
It reveals and tracks patterns and cycles. It HAS become a powerful habit which
helped me develop a sense of self-awareness.
In the words of Anne Lister "What a comfort is
this journal. I tell myself to
myself and throw the burden on my book and feel relieved."
Do you keep a journal?
Thursday, February 8, 2018
A Story on Mental Health
A lady, in her mid 50s terrified a a couple of intermmediate school kids (ages 10-13)at the train station yesterday as she started yelling at them. It was unprovoked and the kids ran straight to a busy street, afraid that the lady was chasing them. She did utter these words "I will shoot you down. I will kill you!"
This was shared on our Facebook community page by the kids' parent. People was able to identify the person. People who knew her said that she is mentally unstable. It was advised that the matter be brought to the police. The community did not want to do a witch hunt instead, raised the importance of dealing with mental health issues. Dialing 111 or NZ police is the best resort as police would know best to determine the best possible help needed by the woman.
I'm pleased with the healthy exchange of opinions on the post. Mental Health issues were highlighted and there was an outpouring of support from the community not just for the terrified kids but for the woman as well. People do trust that the police will do the right thing. And that this community do care and look after each other.
This was shared on our Facebook community page by the kids' parent. People was able to identify the person. People who knew her said that she is mentally unstable. It was advised that the matter be brought to the police. The community did not want to do a witch hunt instead, raised the importance of dealing with mental health issues. Dialing 111 or NZ police is the best resort as police would know best to determine the best possible help needed by the woman.
I'm pleased with the healthy exchange of opinions on the post. Mental Health issues were highlighted and there was an outpouring of support from the community not just for the terrified kids but for the woman as well. People do trust that the police will do the right thing. And that this community do care and look after each other.
Thursday, November 16, 2017
PSM 1 Certification
I'm not a big fan of professional certifications simply because it's too expensive and often, it's just a money-making scheme in Manila. Here in Auckland, it's different. Certifications do solidify your qualifications. So I have been a Scrum Master for five years. I learned it on the job and thought maybe that I didn't need a certification as I am already doing it anyway. But someone who I met recently told me how inspiring my role was, and that since I'm already there, I might as well own it. Logging this as a milestone as it is my first professional certification.
I am now a Professional Scrum Master.
Looking forward to do more in the future.
Monday, November 6, 2017
Guy Fawkes Night
Yesterday was Guy Fawkes Night. Locals would light up fireworks and firecrackers from their backyard. It is the only time in the year when it feels like the beginning of New year's Eve celebration from Pinas. I say "the beginning" coz it's very low key and not as noisy as it was back in Manila. After dinner, the kids and i lit some sparklers. Afterwards, we walked up Mt. Albert Domain to get a view of the city and the fireworks being launched from around the city.
You can hear the crackling and booming in the background, with the occasional lights as we walked up the road. Rose is easily frightened by this, saying that it feels like there's war. I told her nah! It's just fireworks. (Celebrating New Year's Eve in Manila was definitely like a war zone! Each year the firecrackers became louder and more dangerous. Here in Auckland, there is rarely any bang, just a crackle, maybe a pop, and the display of sparks!)
She asked what will happen if a firework lands on you. I said you could get burns so you'll need to go to hospital. Then I told her she should learn how to dodge the fireworks. She smiled when she saw me dodge. And she tried to do it too, then I sang "let's dance dance... i've got a feeling". She stopped me from singing saying I was to think of another song instead. We somehow ended up singing or at least tried to sing Twinkle twinkle little star, and next would be the Moana song.
Half an hour on, we made it to the top of the domain and viewed the busy night sky of central Auckland.
You can hear the crackling and booming in the background, with the occasional lights as we walked up the road. Rose is easily frightened by this, saying that it feels like there's war. I told her nah! It's just fireworks. (Celebrating New Year's Eve in Manila was definitely like a war zone! Each year the firecrackers became louder and more dangerous. Here in Auckland, there is rarely any bang, just a crackle, maybe a pop, and the display of sparks!)
She asked what will happen if a firework lands on you. I said you could get burns so you'll need to go to hospital. Then I told her she should learn how to dodge the fireworks. She smiled when she saw me dodge. And she tried to do it too, then I sang "let's dance dance... i've got a feeling". She stopped me from singing saying I was to think of another song instead. We somehow ended up singing or at least tried to sing Twinkle twinkle little star, and next would be the Moana song.
Half an hour on, we made it to the top of the domain and viewed the busy night sky of central Auckland.
Tuesday, November 8, 2016
Inspirations: Why does it feel like i can do anything here
I think it started with getting my restricted drivers license. I had to take 4 tries to finally nail it. Six months later, I now hold a full NZ drivers license. I passed the test in one go! My confidence shoot up and now i think I can manage the motorway or any other NZ road well enough.
I have picked up some really good frameworks to help address bottlenecks at work. And it blew my mind to confirm that I can try these out at work. And that it's ok to experiment.
I also found myself being in a writing workshop that was sponsored by the local council. I got my work published and the book was launched two months just after the workshop. Then I found myself at the NZ book festival last Saturday and it was amazing! I got to see lots of interesting works from local authors and also got to talk with them, some publishers, an illustrator and other interesting people in this industry. It was an amazing morning for me and my kids enjoyed their time as well.
Maybe it's because the place wasn't crowded that there was enough time for you to have a chat?
Maybe it's because people are open and welcome to share their craft?
I have been invited to give an inspirational talk to fellow Pinoys this Saturday. I have also been invited for dinner by our local MP who represents ethnic groups. I see these as opportunities to market our reading and book selling event at the Mount Albert library on the 27 November.
There is something in the air. There are loads of possibilities. Opportunities are everywhere.
I'm excited!
I have picked up some really good frameworks to help address bottlenecks at work. And it blew my mind to confirm that I can try these out at work. And that it's ok to experiment.
I also found myself being in a writing workshop that was sponsored by the local council. I got my work published and the book was launched two months just after the workshop. Then I found myself at the NZ book festival last Saturday and it was amazing! I got to see lots of interesting works from local authors and also got to talk with them, some publishers, an illustrator and other interesting people in this industry. It was an amazing morning for me and my kids enjoyed their time as well.
Maybe it's because the place wasn't crowded that there was enough time for you to have a chat?
Maybe it's because people are open and welcome to share their craft?
I have been invited to give an inspirational talk to fellow Pinoys this Saturday. I have also been invited for dinner by our local MP who represents ethnic groups. I see these as opportunities to market our reading and book selling event at the Mount Albert library on the 27 November.
There is something in the air. There are loads of possibilities. Opportunities are everywhere.
I'm excited!
Monday, August 1, 2016
Kiddie Parties
I like parties and i especially enjoy organising one for my kiddos. This year, they turned 7 and 5. I thought it's well worth celebrating as they're big milestones.
Having trolled through the internet, I have chosen a YMCA birthday party for Max's 7th. It was perfect for his set of friends. They all had a blast at the gym and wanted to come back. The boys also had a go at the flying fox. The party food was consumed in about 20 minutes. I think 2 hours is perfect for them. The only downside is that we only had 15 minutes to setup the place because of a previous booking.
Rosalin's 5th birthday was different. I booked Sandringham Community Centre because it has a playground at the back. The Play Room can only fit 15 adults which was perfect since we were less than that. The Play Room opens up to a covered deck and out into a playground. We booked it for three hours. We put up some decor and gave the kids a couple of things to keep them busy: a book of princess masks for colouring, glow sticks and bubble wands. The kids just did what they felt like doing and everyone had fun. The adults were happily chatting away the whole time, enjoying the food, and doing seconds. My daughter said she had a great time during her playhouse party.
It pays to plan ahead so you get the right venue on your preferred date. Adding an extra hour if budget permits will help take away the stress of setting up. But if you've invited friends, then they're always happy to give you a hand especially when you only 5 minutes left before your booking ends!
Check out the community centres that are for hire here: http://www.aucklandcouncil.govt.nz/EN/parksfacilities/communitycentreshallsandhouses/Pages/findacommunityvenue.aspx
Having trolled through the internet, I have chosen a YMCA birthday party for Max's 7th. It was perfect for his set of friends. They all had a blast at the gym and wanted to come back. The boys also had a go at the flying fox. The party food was consumed in about 20 minutes. I think 2 hours is perfect for them. The only downside is that we only had 15 minutes to setup the place because of a previous booking.
Rosalin's 5th birthday was different. I booked Sandringham Community Centre because it has a playground at the back. The Play Room can only fit 15 adults which was perfect since we were less than that. The Play Room opens up to a covered deck and out into a playground. We booked it for three hours. We put up some decor and gave the kids a couple of things to keep them busy: a book of princess masks for colouring, glow sticks and bubble wands. The kids just did what they felt like doing and everyone had fun. The adults were happily chatting away the whole time, enjoying the food, and doing seconds. My daughter said she had a great time during her playhouse party.
It pays to plan ahead so you get the right venue on your preferred date. Adding an extra hour if budget permits will help take away the stress of setting up. But if you've invited friends, then they're always happy to give you a hand especially when you only 5 minutes left before your booking ends!
Check out the community centres that are for hire here: http://www.aucklandcouncil.govt.nz/EN/parksfacilities/communitycentreshallsandhouses/Pages/findacommunityvenue.aspx
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
Missing my Barkada
Can't help but think about the lovely women who's grown up with me, and has been there to support me throughout these years. It's my AB Barkada. There's something about sharing life at UST, the growing pains, completing or at least going through our bachelor's degrees, the surprises that we had to deal with along the way. There are the boyfriends, work, family obligations, pregnancy, being a wife etc. We've grown so much together and have experienced our adulthood in various facets. I won't be where I am without my AB Barkada.
Now I am here going through my own struggles and not a barkada in sight. Thank God for social media as we are able to keep abreast of the going ons with our lives. I can't help but think on how things can be like when I am able to have a catch up with the girls, and then have that free exchange of thoughts, conversations about parenting or just life as a whole. Remember how I've always been the profound one. How I've always been the one who's so naive.
But that's life. Some people go through levels of realisations in varying degrees. Some just don't grow at all. Or maybe, things just gets stalled and before you know it, years have gone by already.
Oh how fast these things just happen. If we do not cherish the moments that we have together, then it's so easy to miss thsoe milestones, or key experiences that are worth sharing with the barkada.
I give thanks to having this really cool set of friends who I know will always be there for me, no matter where I am or what I have become.
Right now, we are all here to support our barkada, Lovella Pesquira Cailipan. Cancer may have crept up to you unknowingly but I know that with the support that this barkada is giving you, and the many friends along the way, you will be able to go through the treatment and recovery successfully. We'll continue to cheer you on. We are your friends, your long lost sisters and we'll do everything that we can to help you win this battle.
Lotsa love to you Lababz! Giving you a big hug from middle earth!
Now I am here going through my own struggles and not a barkada in sight. Thank God for social media as we are able to keep abreast of the going ons with our lives. I can't help but think on how things can be like when I am able to have a catch up with the girls, and then have that free exchange of thoughts, conversations about parenting or just life as a whole. Remember how I've always been the profound one. How I've always been the one who's so naive.
But that's life. Some people go through levels of realisations in varying degrees. Some just don't grow at all. Or maybe, things just gets stalled and before you know it, years have gone by already.
Oh how fast these things just happen. If we do not cherish the moments that we have together, then it's so easy to miss thsoe milestones, or key experiences that are worth sharing with the barkada.
I give thanks to having this really cool set of friends who I know will always be there for me, no matter where I am or what I have become.
Right now, we are all here to support our barkada, Lovella Pesquira Cailipan. Cancer may have crept up to you unknowingly but I know that with the support that this barkada is giving you, and the many friends along the way, you will be able to go through the treatment and recovery successfully. We'll continue to cheer you on. We are your friends, your long lost sisters and we'll do everything that we can to help you win this battle.
Lotsa love to you Lababz! Giving you a big hug from middle earth!
I Love My Little Helpers
I want to peel the carrots, said Rose.
So I showed her how to peel and let her finish one half of
the carrot.
Then Rose went “Look Papa, I helped Mommy peel a carrot!”
Let me do it Mommy!
My son loves to vacuum. He takes pride in it. And my
daughter too, simply because his brother is able to do it.
Let’s sweep the leaves Mommy, said Max.
Because the garage is empty, all three of us were able to
clear out the leaves that has been blown into the garage. I pulled the green
bin inside so it’s easier for the kids to put the leaves in.
I want to fold my clothes.
Let me do these socks. Oh no I can’t. It’s too big.
Why don’t you try these smaller socks instead Rose?
Mommy, you know, this morning Papa let me wash the dishes. I
washed the bowls, the cups, the spoons and forks.
So Max now looks forward to doing the dishes!
With children, I suppose if you engage them early with
everyday things, like house chores
then it boosts confidence, fostering independence and a
sense of achievement with the responsibility entrusted on them.
It’s interesting how it was so different from how I grew
up. Chores are chores and ideally, is
something that the household help will be doing. It probably took me at least
two years since we’ve moved here to accept it and get used to it.
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
Getting Comfortable
Back at home, life was either school or work. There was no in-between for me except for the long commutes, where life is being wasted away in traffic. The longest that I was unemployed was only for about a month. During my entire work life, I have been quite diligent and have rendered long hours simply because I felt compelled to. It's like I owe it to my employer. It felt hard when I had kids. I always felt guilty for coming home late everyday, not having enough time to play with my little ones.
Here in Auckland, it's different. Personal life is very much at the core of things. We work because it pays the bills, and that's a given. But sometimes, we do it because we want to or simply because we want to support a colleague. It doesn't feel like we are forced to. I think if you have a supportive environment wherein people understand the demands of a growing family, then it's ok. My colleagues deserve my 100% during work hours. It will be a bonus if I do more.
Having a permanent role helps me manage all those school obligations, and in figuring out what to do during school holidays. I can say that as soon as I step out of the office, I have already switched into a Mom mode. And on weekends, it's all time with the family, and friends. Perhaps it's the weekend sports that the kids are enrolled in. Or the occasional catch up with the girls. And definitely the weekend visit to the parks and playgrounds here in Auckland. Mall visits are rare, and is mostly confined to when we really need things.
It can get a bit scary to change the routine. Will I have a park on the new workplace? Will I be able to get to the kids in time should there be an emergency? Can I make it home in time to make dinner?
It's manageable right now and I have a sense of control. I can hold my time and I never thought it was ever possible. I suppose I am quite comfortable.
The next big obstacle is in securing a house. I'm still not sure if we can do that in our lifetime given that exorbitant house prices. I'm sure there's always something that we can figure out. But other than that, life in Auckland for me is comfortable.
Comfortable because I can go wherever I want. I now hold a Restricted License! i just need to have enough guts to explore the roads. I feel secure whenever we're outside. I do not worry about getting held up by a knife or a gun along the streets. I do not even worry about snatchers or pickpockets. And while driving, I feel confident in getting to my destination so long as I follow the rules. My car is insured anyway.
We do not have much in our savings but we do have something set aside. We are still paying up for our second car but the balance is manageable. We have so many places and events to go to that doesn't force you to spend money. We can always bring a picnic which the kids love. We have so much space that I have now started to feel a bit nervous when I'm faced with a crowd during rush hour at the CBD. And CBD crowd is not even half of Manila during off-peak.
I suppose it's good for me to be able to write again. That I am able to experiment on recipes whenever I feel like it. And that I actually have time to spend not just for me, but for my family. We are renting a small space in central Auckland but despite that, we are able to make a life here. We are far better off than when we were in Manila. Hence, I can say that things are indeed comfortable.
Here in Auckland, it's different. Personal life is very much at the core of things. We work because it pays the bills, and that's a given. But sometimes, we do it because we want to or simply because we want to support a colleague. It doesn't feel like we are forced to. I think if you have a supportive environment wherein people understand the demands of a growing family, then it's ok. My colleagues deserve my 100% during work hours. It will be a bonus if I do more.
Having a permanent role helps me manage all those school obligations, and in figuring out what to do during school holidays. I can say that as soon as I step out of the office, I have already switched into a Mom mode. And on weekends, it's all time with the family, and friends. Perhaps it's the weekend sports that the kids are enrolled in. Or the occasional catch up with the girls. And definitely the weekend visit to the parks and playgrounds here in Auckland. Mall visits are rare, and is mostly confined to when we really need things.
It can get a bit scary to change the routine. Will I have a park on the new workplace? Will I be able to get to the kids in time should there be an emergency? Can I make it home in time to make dinner?
It's manageable right now and I have a sense of control. I can hold my time and I never thought it was ever possible. I suppose I am quite comfortable.
The next big obstacle is in securing a house. I'm still not sure if we can do that in our lifetime given that exorbitant house prices. I'm sure there's always something that we can figure out. But other than that, life in Auckland for me is comfortable.
Comfortable because I can go wherever I want. I now hold a Restricted License! i just need to have enough guts to explore the roads. I feel secure whenever we're outside. I do not worry about getting held up by a knife or a gun along the streets. I do not even worry about snatchers or pickpockets. And while driving, I feel confident in getting to my destination so long as I follow the rules. My car is insured anyway.
We do not have much in our savings but we do have something set aside. We are still paying up for our second car but the balance is manageable. We have so many places and events to go to that doesn't force you to spend money. We can always bring a picnic which the kids love. We have so much space that I have now started to feel a bit nervous when I'm faced with a crowd during rush hour at the CBD. And CBD crowd is not even half of Manila during off-peak.
I suppose it's good for me to be able to write again. That I am able to experiment on recipes whenever I feel like it. And that I actually have time to spend not just for me, but for my family. We are renting a small space in central Auckland but despite that, we are able to make a life here. We are far better off than when we were in Manila. Hence, I can say that things are indeed comfortable.
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