Riding the Waves at Browns Bay

Saturday at Browns Bay, with my kids at the middle/front

I never thought that there'd be a time where I can see my son, happily riding the waves. He's 9 and he was out there with his boogie board one Saturday afternoon, enjoying the surf. He went as far as where the water was up to his neck. That really gave me a fright as the surf do go higher than him. With a big nudge, I managed to get hubby to get his attention to go back to where the water is only up to his waist. Can't help it, he was by himself in the water. And we were maybe 3 mins away (if you walk), watching him from a picnic table. He was also drawn to two older kids who were further out, where the water is up to their chests. He didn't protest when I signaled him to head back. His fingers were already wrinkly and he kept giving a thumbs up sign as he rode the waves towards the beach. That must've been fun! (Oh motherhood, it's changed me to become such a worrier!)

Hugs, Cuddles and Kisses

This morning I woke up a bit late. Seeing that I was still in bed, Rose went straight to our room, landed on top of me and said "Good morning Mommy!" It's mid-week and she knows that we all need to get ready for school/ work soon. When I asked her to fix her bed as I was getting up, she said ok and left.

Weekend mornings are wonderful especially if we are sleeping in. As the soccer season is over, and the kids' swimming is not until ten in the morning, I can actually stay in bed. That also means Alan, stays in bed, then the kids would one by one start to find (or make!) some space for themselves on our bed. Rose loves to wrap her arm around us. Max likes to cuddle next to me. We have a queen size bed and so far, we all still manage to fit by not moving much. There'd be some tickling that comes after, and lots of giggles, to roaring laughs. All these while we all start getting hungry and me hoping that Alan would get up first to get breakfast going.

We haven't really practised "Mano po" with our kids. It's the act of the child, holding your hand and putting it on his/her forehead. But everyday, I do get a hug and kiss from the kids whenever they're ready to leave for school in the morning. And the same hug and kiss, or it could be a longer hug and lots of kisses at night before going to bed. I do feel bad if they don't do this with me on either occasion. The kids feel bad too so even if they're upset from an argument with me, or from being told off, the hug really eases the tension. And the kiss helps the tears go away.

When I come home feeling tired, I sit on the couch and prop my feet up. And whether I decide to turn the TV on or just stare blankly out on the open, the kids will, little by little, find themselves within a very close proximity. Often they'd be reading a book. They like sitting next to me, wrapping themselves with the throw that I have on when I have the TV turned on. And it's as if I don't care enough if I shoo them away, or not make room for them.

I used to get overwhelmed with all these touchy, feely stuff my kids naturally provide. But now I've gotten used to it to the point that I start noticing them growing out of this little by little. I suppose naturally, the kids will want to be on their own, and probably not need that many hugs and cuddles and kisses  from Mom.

But for now, I am really savouring it. I love their hugs, and cuddles and kisses!

My Kiwi Kids

When I brought Rose to her friend’s house for a birthday party, she ran straight in and followed a couple of other excited kids who were running around the house, exploring the place. The Mum said I’m welcome to stay or if I had something to do, I can leave Rose as well. Then Rose rushed back, almost bumping into me. She stopped to give me a hug then said “Bye Mum!”

So I left her there, knowing pretty well what the kids are likely to do and have for the party. I remember one parent telling me (on another birthday party) during pick up, saying “He’s had fun and is all sugared up.” It was in one of the birthday parties that Max went to. It makes me think that’s the recipe for success: lots of playtime and plenty of sweets!

When my kids were younger, I remember them looking for toys at a house with no kids. I think they assumed that even if you’re an adult, you’d still have toys lying around the house.

I find myself amazed with how my children find it to be a natural thing to be able to play with other kids. (That’s because I’m terribly shy as a kid!) At the playground, they end up talking to and playing with other kids who they just met. While observing them, it’s as if they know each other from school. Funny though that Max wouldn’t initially bother with asking their names. So when asked, he’d just give a shrug and say that he doesn’t know who he was playing with. As he got older though, he’s learned to ask for the name at least. Sometimes, he’d find out which school or club they go to. Rose is the same.

Since my children started going to Primary school, our lives completely changed and our calendar is now in sync with the school calendar. Like other families, we book our family holidays during school holidays. I rely on school holiday programs where they offer free or discounted activities for families with children. It's normal to see fathers or grandparents (not just mothers) to be pushing a pram, or walking the kids around the neighbourhood, and to the park. There are events and venues that are especially catered for families with kids, especially during the school holidays. Or maybe it’s coz I’m always on a lookout for events/ places where I can bring the kids.

My kids (now aged 7 and 9) also understand the concept of gay relationships. They would ask me with the curiosity and innocence of a child. I simply replied matter-of-fact that it happens and it's ok. I was asked by Rose one day if a man can marry another man, same with a woman. I said yes, but that's only in New Zealand. Then she said (in a matter-of-fact tone) that her classmate's Mom is married to another woman. 

As the kids grow, I do pick up useful insights and practical tips from fellow parents, especially from my colleagues whose kids are much older. We do take the opportunity for the kids to have access to a variety of things to help expand their skills and experience. It’s great to see the kids enjoying themselves being kids, being aware of the rich diversity around them. I’m hoping they’d carry on with their endless imaginative play, their yearning for outdoor play, be immersed with books, making comic strips or writing stories. Everyday is always an adventure with them.

Children's birthday parties are really just for kids

We just finished a 7^th birthday party for my daughter yesterday. Can’t believe she’s 7! She was just 18 months when she arrived here in NZ. Oh how time flies!

Her birthday’s on a Saturday. I put up some banners by the dining room wall, wrapped a birthday gift (plush toys) and left it on the dinner table overnight. It was good surprise for her, but then I didn’t have a birthday cake yet! So we just took some leftover banana bread, stuck a candle on it and sang happy birthday to her. That was past 7am while she was trying to finish her breakfast. Then we rushed to Phyllis Reserve where she played 7^th grade soccer at 8am. After the game, she handed out some treats to her teammates (Freddo chocolate frogs). Each kid had a piece.

On our way back, we went straight to St. Lukes mall to do her eye check at OPSM. Then to Countdown to get some ingredients for the cake and our meals that weekend. At home, I made baked pasta twist. Then following a very basic recipe, my daughter and I were able to put together a birthday cake.

Rose's Forest Cake with shooting stars and torches

My son had an 11am soccer game at Beachlands, that’s half an hour away so he and hubby were back late. They bought KFC bucket as an added treat for the birthday lunch. Then I just let the kids watch a movie, and skipped their 2pm swimming lessons. It’s been raining on and off that day so not good to be outdoors. At 3pm, we picked up the chipmunk cake that I ordered for the party the next day. We had the cake for afternoon tea and then just leftovers for dinner.

Here's the Chipmunk cake that I ordered from City Cake Company

The next day, Sunday, we heard mass at 10am. I made soup from the remaining mustasa leaves for lunch. Hubby did a batch of washing, vacuumed the lounge and cleaned the toilet, while the kids played. We left for Chipmunks at 1:35pm for the party. The kids arrived in trickles from 2pm onwards. Upon arrival, they just took off their shoes and went straight to the play areas. As usual, the parents just dropped their kids off.

The kids were just running around and enjoyed the place, while hubby tried to take photos. A little after 3pm, we were called to the party room as the food was being served. Charlie, the mascot seemed to have taken longer than usual to get ready to bring the cake so we decided to bring it in ourselves. Rose’s cake had a chipmunk on top. Interesting how the kids seemed to be more interested in eating parts of the chipmunk, same as Rose. She happily shared.

Finally, Charlie the chipmunk managed to show up and cheer the kids. After a few photos, and eating a few more, the kids slowly disappeared from the party room and ran straight back to the play areas. I’m glad my Filipino friends were there as their presence provided me with some much needed support. And we managed to do a bit of catching up too while their kids were busy playing.

Rose was very happy and enjoyed the party. We headed home just after 4pm. Rose’s excitement continued with opening her presents. Even Max enjoyed his loot bag especially the few treats that I’ve tucked in there. At the end of the day, the kids were both smiling as they happily prepared their things for school the next day.

Just last month, we had a Nerf War party for Max’s 9^th birthday. It’s the same experience, the birthday party itself is really just playing with their friends. They didn’t eat that much but spent most of the time playing.

Both kids had been to a few other birthday parties, even play dates as well this year. And it’s interesting how the parents would tell me that now I can take some time off while my child’s in that party/ play date. I suppose it meant a break from parenting during that time. 

As a child, birthdays meant having spaghetti, or pancit, maybe fried chicken and some fizzy drink. We didn't have an oven and cakes only became affordable when I was an adult. And the children's parties in Manila meant inviting not just the kids, but their parents, the rest of the family as well. It was a feast, with maybe some games and the birthday kid sitting awkwardly in front of everyone. Unlike here, it seems so simple, brief and yet fun all at the same time.

Kiddie Parties

I like parties and i especially enjoy organising one for my kiddos. This year, they turned 7 and 5. I thought it's well worth celebrating as they're big milestones.

Having trolled through the internet, I have chosen a YMCA birthday party for Max's 7th. It was perfect for his set of friends. They all had a blast at the gym and wanted to come back. The boys also had a go at the flying fox. The party food was consumed in about 20 minutes. I think 2 hours is perfect for them. The only downside is that we only had 15 minutes to setup the place because of a previous booking.

Rosalin's 5th birthday was different. I booked Sandringham Community Centre because it has a playground at the back. The Play Room can only fit 15 adults which was perfect since we were less than that. The Play Room opens up to a covered deck and out into a playground. We booked it for three hours. We put up some decor and gave the kids a couple of things to keep them busy: a book of princess masks for colouring, glow sticks and bubble wands. The kids just did what they felt like doing and everyone had fun. The adults were happily chatting away the whole time, enjoying the food, and doing seconds. My daughter said she had a great time during her playhouse party.

It pays to plan ahead so you get the right venue on your preferred date. Adding an extra hour if budget permits will help take away the stress of setting up. But if you've invited friends, then they're always happy to give you a hand especially when you only 5 minutes left before your booking ends!

Check out the community centres that are for hire here: http://www.aucklandcouncil.govt.nz/EN/parksfacilities/communitycentreshallsandhouses/Pages/findacommunityvenue.aspx

I Love My Little Helpers

I want to peel the carrots, said Rose.

So I showed her how to peel and let her finish one half of the carrot.

Then Rose went “Look Papa, I helped Mommy peel a carrot!”

Let me do it Mommy!

My son loves to vacuum. He takes pride in it. And my daughter too, simply because his brother is able to do it.

Let’s sweep the leaves Mommy, said Max.

Because the garage is empty, all three of us were able to clear out the leaves that has been blown into the garage. I pulled the green bin inside so it’s easier for the kids to put the leaves in.

I want to fold my clothes.

Let me do these socks. Oh no I can’t. It’s too big.

Why don’t you try these smaller socks instead Rose?

Mommy, you know, this morning Papa let me wash the dishes. I washed the bowls, the cups, the spoons and forks.

So Max now looks forward to doing the dishes!

With children, I suppose if you engage them early with everyday things, like house chores

then it boosts confidence, fostering independence and a sense of achievement with the responsibility entrusted on them.

It’s interesting how it was so different from how I grew up.  Chores are chores and ideally, is something that the household help will be doing. It probably took me at least two years since we’ve moved here to accept it and get used to it.

A Birthday Party

They say, what the children will remember the most are the activities that they did during the party. My son's 7th birthday was simple but fun. The kids spent an hour at the YMCA stadium where there's a range of circuit, sport and and gym activities already laid out. The kids loved it and wanted to stay longer. Afterwards, they all went to the party room for the food. The fruit kebabs, sausages and fairy bread were a hit. They didn't like the cheese twisties nor the brownies. The lollies disappeared too quick for me to notice. After blowing the birthday cake, there kids were eager to go outside. Some played with light sabers and eventually, they all went to the flying fox. As it was getting cold and I had only 15 minutes left before pick up/ closing, I ferried them all back to the room. They asked for games but I didn't have one ready. So I gave them the loot bag since it's got a balloon and a toy inside. It kept them occupied until the parents arrived. It was a bit of a mad rush as we had to clear up the room right away as well. So that was just 2 hours. It felt longer but looking back, it was just right. I'm glad the kids came and that everyone had a blast.

Play Dates and Picnics

Weekends tend to be short especially if you squeeze in play time and picnic at the park on both days.

The weather is surprisingly warm as we headed to Onepoto Domain at Northcote. They have a great cycling route ideal for small bikes and scooters. The playground caters for both small and big kids and they've got a flying fox!

It was a play date with Julia's kids. We brought the kids' scooters and packed a picnic (pasta twist in tomato sauce, baked potato wedges, potato crisps, sliced apples). I've been busy in the kitchen since 7am that Saturday. Did the laundry early so i had clothes waiting to be folded by the time we headed back home. We got home mid afternoon which was plenty of time to vacuum and wash my car. Grocery was sorted, and I had dinner going shortly: ginisang ampalaya with giniling na baboy.

I was exhausted and got in bed early, which was before 9pm. The next day, we went to church and the kids wanted to go for a picnic lunch. I still had leftover pasta and i made some brownies that morning so it was easy to prepare for this. Sunday is cloudy but that didn't stop father and son to take photos. We went to Cornwall park and decided to take some family photos there, with the sheep! My son enjoyed taking photos with our old camera. it was getting chilly so we headed back.

Dynah and family came for a visit and they got 6 month old Juanito with them. We haven't seen them for close to a year and it's great to finally meet the newest member of the family.

Both families are looking forward to the next play date, hoping that the next weekends can still be enjoyed outdoors.

Hold On to Your Kids - They Grow Fast!

As our kids grow, naturally our parents, our relatives, even ourselves grow old too. I met Cora last Saturday. She was holidaying with her husband here in New Zealand, visiting their son and his family. She has another son who now lives in LA. Their house in Katipunan is now empty. They now travel regularly, visitng their kids who now live in two different countries.

Cora said to enjoy our kids coz once they become teenagers, they won't be needing you anymore, except maybe when they're hungry. She said that by that age, they'll often be away with friends or doing school projects.

A week ago during drop off, my son said "Ok Mommy, you can go. That's alright. You can go to the office now." And my daughter, lately has developed the art of diplomacy by saying "Just let me do this Mommy. Don'tbe angry alright?" She's 4.

Whenever I look at their photos and videos from last year, I notice the many changes. From babies, to tots. And now I have a young boy who can't wait for his two wobbly teeth to fall off so he can be a pirate. And my very articulate baby girl can't wait to go to Primary next year.

It was early last year, I was still pushing the pram to daycare with Rose on the seat and Max standing on the back. Now Rose is the big sister at Tots.

My father died end of May 2014. A few days later, we celebrated my son's fifth birthday and I do recall Ate Riza celebrating her daughter's 6th birthday in between the wake. Life goes on and we as parents just need to deal with whatever life throws at us. It's tough.

Breakfast and Feeding the Kids

How do you survive your mornings while getting the kids ready for school?

Naalala ko dati, pandesal parati ang almusal ko.  1 to 2 pcs, with butter and sugar. Treat na kung may peanut butter. Elementary ako nun at past 5am ang sundo ng school bus. Tapos merong recess sa umaga, then lunch, then sundo na ng 3:30pm. Pag uwi, 4pm na, merienda ng spanish bread or kung anu man. Dinner is at 7pm, after the news.

Napaisip tuloy ako, madami ba ang pinapakain ko sa mga chikiting ko? For breakfast, usually:
- a bowl of oatmeal with banana and/or coco crunch
- ham, egg and cheese muffin (parang sa McDo)
- sausage (or ham), egg and rice with ketchup
- 1 slice of bread with peanut butter and slices of banana
- toasted sandwhich: egg and cheese
- quiche (made with eggs, potato, veggies and ham/bacon/sausage)


Gusto ko sana walang drama sa umaga kasi nakakapagod rin ang manuway at madaliin ang mga kids. I try to get them to bed early para maaga rin sila magising. But lately, past 7am na sila bumabangon, very late na for me kasi approximately 1 hour sila kung kumain. Kasama na dun ang pagiging tulala, kulitan at kung anu-ano pang distraction while eating. Si Rose kapag tinapay ang almusal, ang tagal bago maubos. She doesn't like eating yung gilid ng tasty so kailangan pa pilitin.

Ang payat ni Max! Parang kami ni Alan nung bata. But he has 2 snacks in the morning, and lunch at 1pm, then meron din siya merienda for after school. Around 5pm or past 5pm na kasi siya nasusundo. pag uwi sa bahay, merienda ulit. Then dinner at 6:45pm. Hindi ko siya pinagbabaon ng kanin. Usually something na meat with bread.

Si Rose, merong morning tea (9am), lunch and afternoon snack na crackers at daycare.

I may be running out of ideas. I just want our mornings hassle free/ fight-free. Hay!